As amazing as it feels, that in it of itself doesn’t mean there’s depth there.
The amount of vulnerability and trust each person brings to the relationship is typically what gives it depth.
He also said he hasn’t really missed not seeing me in the last two weeks that we hadn’t seen each other.
It basically sounded like he likes me but not enough.
Now, a woman could ask why do guys shift so suddenly?
I would respond that from one perspective it is sudden…
but from the perspective of what he is looking for in his life, his work and in the grand scheme of what truly motivates him, it probably isn’t a sudden change at all.
Although we hadn’t seen that much of each other, I thought everything was fine.
Then we saw each other on Saturday and he told me that he has too much work and doesn’t feel he can see me very much and that it isn’t fair to me.
I asked him what he wanted from me and he said he doesn’t know but he thinks that if he liked me enough he would want to cut back on his work and he doesn’t!
I just don’t understand how he could change so quickly- two weeks ago he was introducing me to his friends and saying he thinks this could really be something and then suddenly he doesn’t like me as much?
I said I felt like he had lead me on and that I wish he had been honest and he said that he promised he didn’t lead me on and he meant all the things he said but since we hadn’t seen each other much in the past two weeks, things started to change for him. At the beginning of a relationship, it’s running on moment to moment emotion – we say what we feel, our brains are dumping all sorts of happy chemicals into our heads giving us all those amazing feelings.