Iranian american dating customs
In some places, the henna is first put on the hands of the bride and then distributed to the guests; in other areas the henna is first distributed to the guests, and only after everybody has left is it placed on the bride’s hands.
If the woman so wishes, henna can also be placed on her feet and hair.
In the olden times, when it was time for a young man to get married, his family would look for potential brides who came from family's of similar standing in the community.
Once the man, or his family, had decided on a potential bride, the Khastegāri process would take place.
At the Second Khastegāri (Persian: خواستگاری دوم) a marriage proposal is made by the suitor and his family.
The woman’s family welcome the party and invite them to sit in the reception room.
The first visit could be for the parties to become acquainted.
At each visit, the man's family would present a bouquet of flowers and the woman's, as good hosts, provided tea, fruits and sweets.
It is important to note that, nowadays in most families, the first two Khastegaris are done in one step.In modern day Iran, the Khastegari is a one-time formality.It is a sign of respect to the parents of both parties and for them (as wiser/elders) to have their thoughts shared with the potential future bride and groom.In the most traditional families, the first time that the man and woman see each other is when she enters to offer tea and pastries to the guests.At the end of the second Khastegāri, the man and the woman will be given time alone to talk in private.