Oprah winfrey dating advice
"You've got to determine along the way which one of the fish you're going to be." Without ironclad standards, Harvey says you'll always end up back in the dating pool.
"You've got to quit lowering your standards," he says.
"Set your requirements up front so when a guy hooks you, he has to know this is business." And don't let the man set the pace of the relationship -- Harvey says it's always the woman who has total control.
You've got guys that are fishing to keep the fish, and you've got guys that are fishing to catch them, unhook them and throw them back," Harvey says."This is the first project that I didn't do for money," he says. But this [book] right here I did purely to empower women." In his book, Harvey says the way a man introduces you gives good insight into the status of your relationship. Oprah,' you should be standing there going, 'This is going nowhere.'" Oprah.com: Read an excerpt from this best-selling book! "We're looking across the room at you, and we don't care about your hopes and dreams. We saw something we wanted." When a man approaches a woman, Harvey says, he already knows what we wants from her, but he doesn't know what it will cost. The cookie Though a woman might want many things from a man, Harvey says men only need three things: support, loyalty and sex. And my father-in-law was visiting from Memphis," Harvey says. Let's inform her that she's just being kicked...let's see if that's what she wants to do," he says."Other than my foundation -- mentoring programs -- everything I do is for money. If a man introduces you as a friend or says your name with no title at all, Harvey says you have nothing. Man with a plan Another thing women need to understand, according to Harvey, is that every man has a plan. Or as Harvey calls it, "the cookie." "We've got to have your support. "He's in the kitchen and he's eating and [my daughter's] boyfriend is in there, and [my father-in-law] goes: 'So, son, sit down. '" After plenty of hemming and hawing, Harvey says the boyfriend finally said that the two were just "kickin' it." Harvey was pretty confident his daughter didn't have the same interpretation of the relationship, he says. "They broke up the next day." Gone fishin' Harvey says men are like fishermen -- but women are actually the ones looking for a good catch.fix-it Harvey says four little words can strike fear and dread into any man: We need to talk."You just drove a nail in his forehead," Harvey says.